I’m sitting in my living room watching a Hallmark movie and checking out instagram. If I dare to look over the top of my laptop, I see box filled with wrapping supplies in one corner, a homemade gift project to my left, and a sewing mess, right in the middle of the room. In the kitchen there is dishes from the last night and tonight’s meals. The front room has piles of school drop offs, such as coats backpacks etc.
Swimming around in my head are my perfect holiday expectations.
I have expectations of having energy to make the perfect sugar cookies, expectations that my child will want to decorate the tree with me, expectations that picture perfect Christmas memories, are about to happen. The reality as evidence of the mess I’m sitting in, is nothing compare to my expectations. Why do we do this to ourselves? What makes it okay to set our expectations beyond our grasp?
Here in my opinion is the truth, perfect is an ideal not a reality. For example when I take a picture for instagram I take a thousand and choose the right one. (I have even sent them to my sisters and have had them help me choose.) Not exposing my mistakes, only allowing my ideal of perfection to show.
Isn’t that how it is with life? We have a thousand moments in a day, some good, bad, and some even slightly embarrassing. When the first flaw of the day makes its’ ugly appearance, we allow that moment to effect our whole day. What if we allow the bad experience to pass? Take a moment and truly grasp what this means.
It is okay to have a moment where everything goes wrong, to feel those hard feelings and sometimes even cry. I know this doesn’t seem very joyful for the season. However hear me out. Pain is the key to knowing joy. To be able to truly appreciate those little moments you can’t allow the negative to be bottle up. It’s healthy to feel those emotions. Once you process them you can truly focus on the happiness of the moment.
Than instead of allowing the negative to influence our outlook on the Holiday season; we can pick those amazing moments of the day to remember.
If we did this what would happen to our outlook of the memories we have of this holiday season, compared to the last?
So as I sit here relaxing surrounded by my creative mess, here is my wish for you. I hope you find laughter among the chaos, joy amidst the clutter. I hope you allow yourself mistakes to learn from. Remember perfection is not something to aim for, so let go of the expectations and enjoy every nitty gritty moment with your loved ones. If you are trying your best than, you are doing great. Heck if your trying at all you are doing great. Don’t let a bad moment poison your day. Take a breath allow yourself to feel all those hard feelings, move on and experience the joy we as moms can sometimes deny ourselves. You are worth it, and your family is worth it.
How do you achieve the perfect Christmas?