It’s the holiday season, and while kids are filling out their wish list, and your trying to teach them the true meaning of the season, sometimes we can end up neglecting our marriage; a very important relationship. Reconnecting with your spouse, can enhance your Christmas season and make it much more memorable. Today I am going to share with you 10 ideas on how my hubby and I keep connected during the busiest time of the year.
Go on Dates!
Get a babysitter, dress up and get ready for some one on one time with a person you love.This could be a nice dinner or even just a stroll to look at Christmas lights.Try not to do any Christmas shopping and just spend time together. Hold hands and have a good conversation.
(I know it seems like this should be a no brainer but if you’re like me and my hubby the idea of spending money is nauseating! However because it is the holiday season there are plenty of things to do that don’t break the bank. So put the kids in bed and have an at home date with these ideas.)
You can make this as fancy as you want! Put on some instrumental Christmas music, set the table for two, even add some candles. Than have your favorite dessert! (My Hubs and I’s favorite is cheesecake.) This is a great opportunity to reconnect. We try really hard not to talk about stress filled topics. This allows the date to free of frustration.
This has become a tradition! Making some cocoa turning on the Christmas lights, sitting by the tree and enjoying each others company. There is something magical, about the lights of a Christmas tree; it just makes everything better!
Sometimes its just nice to cuddle on the couch under a soft warm blanket and watch a Christmas movies.If i had my choice it would be the Hallmark channel, but since my hubby isn’t into that, we usually watch a classic like “It’s a Wonderful Life”
Play a game(without the kids)
It could be as easy as a board game, or cards! There is something so fun playing a game and connecting over some friendly competition! You could even make it interesting for example: loser does the dishes or Winner receives a massage!
Send your spouse a Christmas Card
It’s very easy to get wrap up in the season and not see the hard work each other is putting into the magic of Christmas. Taking a break and recognizing what each other is doing good will do wonders for your relationship. We all want to be praised and feel appreciated and lets face it when we are busy sometimes that gets put to the back burner! Writing a Christmas card is a great opportunity to stop and think of all the wonderful things your spouse does. Drop it their lunch, tape it to their steering well of the car, or even drop it in the mail. This will give your spouse a chance to feel how much you love them and most importantly how much you appreciate them.
Make each other Christmas Ornaments
This idea came from my parents. They have this adorable little tree in their room. The only ornaments they have on it are hearts. They collect them when they go somewhere or have a memorable moment. However I thought it would be nice to make heart ornaments maybe out of salt dough or felt and writing your favorite memory with your spouse on it. Imagine after 10 years sitting down and reading all these lovely things that connected you with your spouse during the years.
Be each others secret Santa, by doing nice things for each other. Maybe it’s the dishes or the laundry. Making each others life easier is the best way to show love. So figure out what’s on your spouses to-do list and take a item off of it for them!
Hang some mistletoe!
Nudge-nudge! There is magic under the mistletoe and it is a fun game to be caught under it! It is also healthy for your kids to see you and your hubby give each other affection. It creates a feeling of safety that mommy and daddy love each other.
Christmas Stocking surprise
When my daughter was 3 years old, I was talking to my hubby about how I missed being surprised with my Christmas stocking. That is when my hubby said “why don’t I fill your stocking, this year?” That was 10 years ago, and we are still going strong. It has brought back the excitement that I had as a kid! Imagine on Christmas morning being surprised because you the hubby filled each others Christmas stockings this year!
Wither it’s a hot coco date or a kiss under the mistletoe it is nice to reconnect with your spouse during the busiest season. So put down the cell phone, laptop or tablet and really try to connect with your spouse. After awhile these little things you do become cherished traditions, and the hustle and bustle of the holidays slow down a bit. What do you do to reconnect with you spouse during the holiday season?