This mommy tries to get alone time with the hubby… 10 Ideas to get close to your spouse this Holiday season!

It’s the holiday season, and while kids are filling out their wish list, and your trying to teach them the true meaning of the season, sometimes we can end up neglecting our marriage; a very important relationship. Reconnecting with your spouse, can enhance your Christmas season and make it much more memorable. Today I am going to share with you 10 ideas on how my hubby and I keep connected during the busiest time of the year.

Go on Dates!

Get a babysitter, dress up and get ready for some one on one time with a person you love.This could be a nice dinner or even just a stroll to look at Christmas lights.Try not to do any Christmas shopping and just spend time together. Hold hands and have a good conversation.


(I know it seems like this should be a no brainer but if you’re like me and my hubby the idea of spending money is nauseating! However because it is the holiday season there are plenty of things to do that don’t break the bank. So put the kids in bed and have an at home date with these ideas.)

Dessert Date.

You can make this as fancy as you want! Put on some instrumental Christmas music, set the table for two, even add some candles. Than have your favorite dessert! (My Hubs and I’s favorite is cheesecake.) This is a great opportunity to reconnect. We try really hard not to talk about stress filled topics. This allows the date to free of frustration.


Cocoa Date

This has become a tradition! Making some cocoa turning on the Christmas lights, sitting by the tree and enjoying each others company. There is something magical, about the lights of a Christmas tree; it just makes everything better!

Movie date

Sometimes its just nice to cuddle on the couch under a soft warm blanket and watch a Christmas movies.If i had my choice it would be the Hallmark channel, but since my hubby isn’t into that, we usually watch a classic like “It’s a Wonderful Life”


Play a game(without the kids)

It could be as easy as a board game, or cards! There is something so fun playing a game and connecting over some friendly competition! You could even make it interesting for example: loser does the dishes or Winner receives a massage!

Play a game

Send your spouse a Christmas Card

It’s very easy to get wrap up in the season and not see the hard work each other is putting into the magic of Christmas. Taking a break and recognizing what each other is doing good will do wonders for your relationship. We all want to be praised and feel appreciated and lets face it when we are busy sometimes that gets put to the back burner! Writing a Christmas card is a great opportunity to stop and think of all the wonderful things your spouse does. Drop it their lunch, tape it to their steering well of the car, or even drop it in the mail. This will give your spouse a chance to feel how much you love them and most importantly how much you appreciate them.


Make each other Christmas Ornaments

This idea came from my parents. They have this adorable little tree in their room. The only ornaments they have on it are hearts. They collect them when they go somewhere or have a memorable moment. However I thought it would be nice to make heart ornaments maybe out of salt dough or felt and writing your favorite memory with your spouse on it. Imagine after 10 years sitting down and reading all these lovely things that connected you with your spouse during the years.

Secret Santa

Be each others secret Santa, by doing nice things for each other. Maybe it’s the dishes or the laundry. Making each others life easier is the best way to show love. So figure out what’s on your spouses to-do list and take a item off of it for them!

Hang some mistletoe!

Nudge-nudge! There is magic under the mistletoe and it is a fun game to be caught under it! It is also healthy for your kids to see you and your hubby give each other affection. It creates a feeling of safety that mommy and daddy love each other.


Christmas Stocking surprise

When my daughter was 3 years old, I was talking to my hubby about how I missed being surprised with my Christmas stocking. That is when my hubby said “why don’t I fill your stocking, this year?” That was 10 years ago, and we are still going strong. It has brought back the excitement that I had as a kid! Imagine on Christmas morning being surprised because you the hubby filled each others Christmas stockings this year!




Wither it’s a hot coco date or a kiss under the mistletoe it is nice to reconnect with your spouse during the busiest season. So put down the cell phone, laptop or tablet and really try to connect with your spouse. After awhile these little things you do become cherished traditions, and the hustle and bustle of the holidays slow down a bit. What do you do to reconnect with you spouse during the holiday season?

40 thoughts on “This mommy tries to get alone time with the hubby… 10 Ideas to get close to your spouse this Holiday season!

  1. For me movie dates are the cutest since I don’t really enjoy going to restaurants and such. AMAZING post. I will definitely steal some ideas for the holidays.

  2. I love this post. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in how busy the holiday season gets that it passes us by. I love yourideas of different dates to make sure you are truly spending time together during the season.

  3. I love going to look at Christmas lights and seeing the different decoration on the Las Vegas strip with my husband. It’s something that we don’t take our littles to because the strip is too packed and hectic. I also hang a mistletoe over the archway to our master bathroom.

  4. Such cool ideas you share to us! Playing together is the sweetest thing I guess. Love this post ♥ I will give you a thumbs up ☺

  5. I love the idea of actually sending your partner a card by mail. Think I’ll mail one to his work address. It’ll be much better received than if I just hand him one with his Christmas gift. Thanks for the suggestion.

  6. Oh this are so romantic! Movie date is our favorite.
    Hey, would it be possible you share us what your hubby’s version of this list?

  7. Fun ideas! I was just telling my husband last night that we need to spend more time together. Life gets so busy with kids and sometimes we just forget to slow down. Maybe I’ll make hot cocoa tonight and just chit chat without the TV on! Thanks for the inspiration 🙂

  8. It will be interesting to see how new baby changes my husband and my life – and how he and I will make time for just him and I. I love all these ideas and who knows, some may get incorporated into our routine!

  9. It is so hard to find alone time as a couple during any time of the year. Christmas is extra busy. These tips seem realistic and doable. Thanks for the ideas!

  10. These are great ways to connect with your spouse! Especially when you have young kids. I’m looking forward to incorporating some of these ideas after the little ones go to bed.

  11. These ideas are really great and I love your ideas of different dates to make sure you are truly spending time together during the season.

  12. These are all great ideas! It’s so hard to connect during the holidays when we have been busy making everyday about our daughters. They are so excited about the season too but we definitely need to make time for us.

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